This Isn't a Crisis. It's a Calling

For every woman standing at the crossroads of who she was and who she's meant to be

I remember sitting at my desk surrounded by legal files and a coffee that had gone cold two hours ago and thinking: This doesn’t fit anymore.

Not the blazer. Not the title. Not the version of me who had worked so hard to earn both.

I was a practicing attorney. On paper, I had made it. I had the credentials, the letterhead, the LinkedIn profile that made family members brag about me. And yet something deeper was pulling me — quietly at first, then with increasing urgency — in a completely different direction.

Maybe you know that feeling.

That low hum of knowing you’ve outgrown something you once fought hard to become. That the career you built no longer feels like a home; it feels like a costume.

Here’s what I want you to hear before anything else: that feeling isn’t a crisis. It’s a calling.

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The Identity Death Nobody Warns You About

I was still too afraid to leave the career I took years building.

So, the Universe intervened. I got laid off.

When it happened, I was equal parts terrified and relieved.

And here’s the thing I didn’t expect until it happened to me: I didn’t just leave a job. I left an identity.

“Attorney” had been woven into how I introduced myself at parties, how I measured my worth, and honestly, how I assumed God saw me. It was like my value was permanently attached to the credentials behind my name.

The transition to career coaching, writing, and AI wasn’t graceful. There was a season of standing in the in-between — not quite the lawyer anymore, not yet the coach. Just... Ana. Which, at first, felt terrifyingly thin.

That void has a name: identity death. And it is real.

It’s the grief of releasing who you were.

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You’re Not Falling Apart. You’re Being Rebuilt.

Here’s what I know now that I couldn’t see then:

The discomfort of that in-between season was a sign I was growing into something I couldn’t fully see yet. That’s the hardest part. You’re asked to trust a destination you haven’t arrived at. To release the old blueprint before the new one is created.

Faith calls this walking by faith, not by sight. And friend, it’s not easy.

But here’s what’s also true: the skills you built in your “before” life don’t disappear. They transform. My legal training: research, breaking down complexity, writing under pressure, advocating for others didn’t vanish when I left law. It became the foundation of everything I do now. My coaching practice. My newsletter. My content strategy.

Your experience is not baggage. It’s inventory.

You are not starting over. You are redirecting.

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If You’re in the In-Between Right Now

You’re not behind. You’re not broken. You’re between chapters, and that is exactly where transformation lives.

Three things that helped me navigate the void:

1. Name what you’re grieving. Don’t skip this step. The old identity deserves acknowledgment before you release it. Journal it, pray over it, say it out loud: “I’m letting go of _____, and that matters.”

2. Separate your worth from your title. Your value was never the job. It was always you, your wisdom, your way of seeing things, your lived experience. Those don’t go anywhere.

3. Give yourself permission to just be for a season. The new identity is forming. It doesn’t need to be announced yet. It just needs space to breathe.

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Your next chapter isn’t a consolation prize.

It’s the main event

And it’s already in motion. 🙏

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Over to you

Where are you currently on the pivot spectrum? Are you still in the “unfulfilled but afraid to leave” stage, or are you standing in the void of the unknown? Hit reply and let me know. I read every response. 💕

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