Before I hosted my first group energy reading session, I almost talked myself out of it.
Not once. Not twice.
About a dozen times.
I had done energy readings privately for years. One on one, in quiet conversations, in sacred spaces where it was just me and one other person. I knew I had the gift. I had seen it work. I had watched people exhale â really exhale â when something I reflected back to them finally gave words to what theyâd been carrying.
But a GROUP?
Where multiple people would be watching?
Where I couldnât control the energy in the room, couldnât predict who would show up, couldnât guarantee that what came through would land?
That was a whole different thing.
And my fear had a LOT to say about it.
What if nothing comes through? What if I freeze? What if they think Iâm a fraud?
Sound familiar?
Because hereâs what Iâve learned after years of doing this work â both on myself and with the people I coach:
Fear doesnât mean stop. Fear means youâre about to grow.
The version of you that is playing small? Sheâs comfortable. Sheâs safe. She knows exactly what to expect because she never ventures beyond what sheâs already proven.
But sheâs also stuck.
And some part of you already knows that. Thatâs why youâre here.
The question isnât whether youâll feel fear on the way to what you want.
You will. I promise you that.
The question is what you decide to do with it.
What Actually Happened When I Showed Up Anyway
So I showed up.
Scared. Uncertain. Quietly praying that something real would come through.
And hereâs what happened:
The moment I tuned in â the moment I got out of my head and into my heart â everything shifted. What came through wasnât mine. It never is. It moved through me like it had been waiting, and the person on the other end of it went completely still.
And then they said: âHow did you know that?â
I didnât. Not from my mind anyway.
But something deeper did.
That moment didnât just validate my gift. It taught me something I now consider one of the most important truths I know about fear:
Fear lives in the mind. Your gift lives somewhere else entirely.
And as long as you let fear run the show, you will never fully access what youâre actually here to offer.
The Thought Pattern That Almost Stopped Me
Hereâs the specific story my fear was telling me before that session:
âYou havenât done this in a group before. That means youâre not ready. And if youâre not ready, youâll fail. And if you fail, people will see. And if people see, itâs over.â
Notice the chain reaction. One small truth â I havenât done this in a group before â snowballed into a catastrophic conclusion that had absolutely no basis in reality.
This is what fear does. It takes a fact and turns it into a forecast.
The reframe that changed everything for me was simple:
âI havenât done this in a group beforeâ is information. It is not a verdict.
New territory is not the same as dangerous territory. It just feels that way because your nervous system canât tell the difference between a real threat and an unfamiliar opportunity.
Once I understood that, I stopped trying to feel ready.
I started choosing to show up instead.
A 3-Step Process for Moving Through Fear Into Aligned Action
I use this every time fear shows up before something that matters to me. It takes about ten minutes and it works.
Step 1: Name the story. Write down exactly what your fear is telling you. Donât filter it. Let it be as dramatic and catastrophic as it wants to be. Get it out of your head and onto paper where you can actually see it.
Step 2: Separate fact from forecast. Go through what you wrote and underline every statement that is actually, verifiably true right now. Circle everything that is a prediction, an assumption, or a worst-case scenario. Youâll usually find that the facts are small â and the fear has built a very large story around them.
Step 3: Ask one question. âWhat would I do right now if I trusted myself completely?â
Donât overthink the answer. The first thing that comes is usually right.
Then do that thing.
Your Reflection Practice
Set a timer for 10 minutes. Find somewhere quiet. Then write freely in response to these prompts:
What is the thing I most want to do in my business right now â the thing fear keeps talking me out of?
What is the story fear is telling me about why I canât or shouldnât?
What is actually, verifiably true â right now, today?
What would I do if I knew I couldnât fail?
Donât edit. Donât judge. Just write.
And when youâre done â sit with what came up for a moment before you close the page.
Because somewhere in those pages is your next right move.
Itâs been there all along. đ
If this practice brought something up for you, Iâd love to hear about it. Drop a comment below or reply to this email. This is a community â and your breakthroughs belong here too. đ